Today commences CPR's salute to Women. After all, women contributed to our society from the beginning of civilization. The March blogs consider leadership through the eyes of women who paved the way as leaders in their own right. Consider the quote of the late poet laureate, Maya Angelou. Ms. Angelou states, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” That is a timely quote that can be applied any day and anywhere.
On another Non-Toxic Tuesday, CPR reminds leaders that attitude, not aptitude, determines altitude. So, leaders check your attitude. On a CPR non-toxic Tuesday, what is your attitude conveying to your team, clients, and partners? Also, consider why your aptitude is one of many sources for attaining your goals or altitude. The right attitude sets the bar for you and your team daily. Your attitude can be used to motivate or demotivate. Your attitude may also be responsible for a decline in sales. If you have an employee with a poor attitude, look at you, the leader, first to determine whether the employee is modeling your behavior. If yes, then it is time to self-reflect so you can be self-aware. Today's blog highlights a post from Barrie Davenport (2022) that presents 17 signs that you have a bad attitude. This links to CPR Moral Leadership coaching tidbit #5, featuring Tommy's negative traits. If you have yet to see episode #5 of CPR Moral Leadership Coaching tidbit, a link is provided for your convenience. https://youtu.be/DWv0LmJIi_I
1. You’re (always) comparing yourself to others.
If you’re constantly comparing yourself to others, you’re bound to have a negative attitude, at least whenever you feel inferior to the other person.
2. You expect other people to operate according to your schedule.
You’ve got things to do and places to go. How dare anyone makes you late for something! If you react harshly, it’s only because you take your duties seriously.
3. Everyone irritates you.
You’re always looking for a fight, and it doesn’t take much for you to get mouthy or abrasive. You’re rude to anyone who doesn’t meet your high standards.
4. You expect deference from people whose jobs are less prestigious than yours. with less prestigious jobs
Somewhere along the way, you started looking down on people working low-income jobs or never earning a college degree. Whatever your background, it’s never too late to educate yourself and learn how to see people as they are.
5. You expect others to respect you before you show them respect.
Not only that, but you don’t feel respected unless other people do as you ask. If the other person doesn’t obey or indulge you, you see no reason to treat them like human beings.
6. You’re always in a hurry.
I mean, who isn’t, right? So much to do! The nerve of some people slowing you down when all you’re trying to do is check everything off on your to-do list.
7. Your expectations have never met reality.
You base your expectations on what you want — and on the assumption that, if only others were as competent and hard-working as you, they’d have no trouble meeting those expectations.
8. You misinterpret everything others do and say.
No one can do right by you. And every little thing they do is set you off. You’re so busy thinking, “Why are people so annoying?” you’re oblivious to your effect on others.
9. You’re stuck in all-or-nothing (or black-and-white) thinking.
Either someone is 100% on board with what you want to do, or they’re against you. There is no in-between. And no one has the will or the ability to be the kind of “friend” you want.
10. You’re fixated on conflicts with people you care about.
You don’t have room or time to deal with people when your mind is stuck thinking about a conflict with someone you care about. Your mind builds that conflict into something catastrophic and all-consuming.
11. You’re carrying a grudge against someone.
It’s a righteous grudge; you keep telling yourself. You’re convinced that letting go of that grudge would let the other person win. But the only person your grudge is hurting is you.
12. You’re expecting bad things to happen to you.
You’re doomed. Nothing ever goes the way you want it to. So, why wouldn’t you have a bad attitude? Your whole life is a cruel joke; everyone else sees it when they look at you. So, you scowl back.
13. You’ve gotten used to seeing yourself as unlikeable.
You don’t expect people to like you, so you don’t give them any reason to. If you don’t like yourself, you won’t expect others to.
14. Deep down, you honestly believe you’re superior to others.
You could do something few others can. Or perhaps you’ve been encouraged to see yourself as superior. Whatever the reason, your arrogance hasn’t done you any favors — especially regarding relationships.
15. A recent disappointment has discouraged you.
Thinking about anything or anyone else is hard when you’re fixated on a disappointing experience. Whatever you expected to happen didn’t. So, what have you learned?
16. A recent tragedy have you feeling indifferent to everyone and everything else.
You’re in pain, and it’s hard to see past that. All it takes is one thoughtless act, and you vent your grief and frustration as complaints and insults. It seems that’s all you have the energy for.
17. People have been calling you out for your attitude.
The biggest clue that your attitude does not serve you or anyone else is when people around you call you out for it. Finally, they’ve had enough and are unafraid to tell you you’re being a jerk. However carefully they might do this, you feel attacked.
As leaders, we have options. We can ignore the signs and proceed as usual or tackle this issue head-on before it results in business sabotage. So be sure to tune in next non-Toxic Tuesday for the "how to" get rid of ATTITUDE so that it does not wreak havoc on your business. Attitude matters!